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Anonymous asked: Honestly, I agree with your open letter. I'm a feminist and to me bashing someone for what they wear does not make you a feminist at all. That's not what feminism is about. It bothered me when she said "... body suits like the one Beyonce's dancing in, they dance for men who find them alluring, and for a very short time, these very young girls are convinced that they've made it - only to be assaulted,abused... " this article is arguing in the wrong direction. Rape culture at its best.

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An Open Letter to Rakhi Kumar

I read a thing speaking negatively about Beyonce, and it made me angry.

Rakhi Kumar wrote an article attempting to warn Michelle Obama and mothers that Beyonce is not a role model and should not be considered as such.  Most of her argument is based on two incorrect facts.  First, the bodysuit Kumar is referring to is not sheer.  The detailing and coloring of it was made by the artists, Philippe and David Blond, on the article of clothing.  Her nipples are not showing, she is wearing a piece of art that is covered in 30,000 Swarovski crystals, which is crazy.  Additionally, Beyonce is not under the management of her “daddy” or her husband - as of 2011, Beyonce is under the management of herself. 

That being said, your attempt at knocking Beyonce down for the sake of “feminism” is incredibly misguided.  Beyonce is not selling sex.  She is selling her art that is made by her talent, and you just are not paying close enough attention.  Her sexuality is not the “center of her presentation” and anyone who thinks so is neglecting her talent and is choosing to see her performance that way.  She would not be doing what she is without her natural talent and hard work since she was fifteen years old.  Accusing Beyonce of selling sex is no better than anyone who muted her Superbowl halftime performance and said, “She’s hot.  I want to fuck her.”  Part of making her art is including her own sexuality, something that nearly all humans have or will have.  She is not going to sacrifice herself or her expression for the sake of her potential audience being comprised of young girls.  Besides, she is not “teaching” anything bad - these girls will likely be sexual beings one day.  Beyonce is definitely a role model in her hard work and grace, but it is not her responsibility to have to teach anyone (besides her own child) anything.  She is a grown woman and she can do whatever she wants. 

You are limiting her as an artist by saying that a vital and universal part of human life cannot be expressed in her art.  I understand the risks of a person being sexual at a young age, but it is up to that child’s parents/guardian to educate him or her.  Beyonce is owning her sexuality, something that, in our society, women are taught to be ashamed of.  So, in your argument,  you are only perpetuating these incredibly limiting societal ideas.